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Should I Be Looking Behind My Back?

February 5, 2010

After months of failed attempts to help Naftalie sleep through the night, we let her cry several nights. Hard. For a long time. It was very difficult and I hated listening to her cry (especially at 3:00am), but I believe it has helped her learn how to fall asleep on her own when she wakes up (I was up with her for over an hour last night so it’s not a magical system).

This morning she cried again when I left her in her crib for a nap. Danny spoke for her, “I’ll never forgive you for this!”.  Based on the picture above it looks like she’d be all too pleased to catapult a blob of oatmeal/yoghurt porridge in my face. All joking aside, I wonder if she’s “resentful” for those hours pleading in the crib?  Attachment Parenting  (the philosophy what we feel most comfortable with) would say yes. This is a humble learning experience. It’s getting better (the sleep depravity, the guilt, the frustration, the crying), but I’m learning that the sooner I embrace that I don’t have control over Naftalie the easier this journey’s going to be.

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5 Comments leave one →
  1. February 5, 2010 2:42 am

    EXACTLY! By all means, your baby needs every bit of you. You do have to “baby” them because they ARE babies!! But there has GOT to always be a balance. There are so many extreme beliefs in parenting, either this or the COMPLETE opposite, and I am already learning you just can’t parent that way. There is my favorite word again…

    BALANCE.

    So don’t feel bad, just find the middle ground, find the balance and do that. Of course it will be hard on anybody at any age to go from one extreme that they’ve known and loved their whole life to the complete opposite out of nowhere. You’re not doing anything bad, just continue to find the balance and don’t give up and don’t give in!

  2. sheryl permalink
    February 5, 2010 2:53 am

    She loves you unconditionally, honey. You’re doing a sincerely amazing job at being a momma and mothering this precious child. Love conquers and covers all and you’re doing the right thing. Hang in there. It’s a phase and she (and you!) will get through it.

  3. sheryl permalink
    February 5, 2010 2:53 am

    oh my. I just want to hold her and talk to her and play with her!!!

  4. millison permalink
    February 5, 2010 7:01 am

    Oh yeah, before I even read your words, the look in her eyes said it all: Pissed.

    You are to be praised for setting boundaries and trying to follow them. This is a precious, beautiful, smart, and yes–strong willed little darling you have, and now is the time to hold onto your standards. Oh the look on that face…..”i’ll never forgive you for this” is right.

  5. Dennis permalink
    February 17, 2010 1:46 pm

    LOL. Parents take way too much credit and way too much blame. Wait until you tell her she can’t drive until she gets a job…THEN you’ll see a little attitude.

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